Friday, April 30, 2021
Prakash Divas Guru Teg Bahadur Ji
Tuesday, April 13, 2021
Happy Vaisakhi 2021!
Apologies for the late posting, it's been a busy workday. Wishing all the sangat a Happy Vaisakhi!
On Vaisakhi 1699 Guru Gobind Singh Ji called hundreds of thousands of Sikhs to gather at Anandpur Sahib. The crowd was completely silent, fully taking in the words of Guru Ji. After spiritual discourse, Guru Ji addressed the crowd, and then took out his sword and asked for a sacrifice, a head. Suddenly the sangat was scared...Can you imagine what it must have felt like standing amongst the crowd at that time? Bhai Daya Ram Ji bravely approached. Guru Ji went in a tent and came back with his sword, dripping with blood. He asked for another head. Next was Bhai Dharam Das, then Sahib Chand, Himmat Chand, and finally Mokham Chand. Some of the sangat started to disperse in fear, when suddenly Guru Ji came out with all five and performed the Amrit ceremony. These Singhs became our Panj Pyare, the embodiment of the Guru. Then Guru Ji got the 5 to baptize him. The mother of the Khalsa is Mata Sahib Kaur Ji and she added patasay to the Amrit. In baptizing the Sikhs, Guru Ji gave the Khalsa the distinct identity of today- kesh, kanga, kirpan, kachera, and kara. This united the Khalsa and because the panj were from different castes and now equal, it also showed that there would be equality and no caste distinction. The identity was important in that no Sikh would be allowed to hide- their identity would stand out as Sikh and therefore they would be responsible for their actions. This would allow others to get help from Sikhs. The Khalsa was important in uniting the Sikhs as saint-soldiers, as warriors in standing up against the oppression and injustices that were being faced. Sikh women were given the middle name Kaur (princess) and males were given the middle name Singh (lion).
Saturday, April 10, 2021
What Is Home?
There is a level of peace that we are all starving for. We wander through our lives trying strategies to seek out something we absolutely must have, what we absolutely need to survive, and not knowing how to get it. The smallest taste of it reminds us that we actually do know this feeling intimately well. It isn’t distant, it is known to us, like returning to your mom’s arms. It fulfills a need that we waited lifetimes to get, and nothing else can fulfill so we remain hungry. Gurbani tells us “Bin Nave Jag Kamla Fire” because we do wander, as if we have lost our minds without Naam. Guru Ji teaches us that our whole life purpose is in reaching that state permanently, to merge into it, return to it, realize it. The mind may not realize it right now, but this is what it so desperately is searching for, a feeling of home that no other home can fulfill. I sometimes find myself saying “I wish I was home” even when I am home...there is another home that I seek.
My thirst for home has grown exponentially stronger over time. Just like we have a burning desire in our hearts for someone we love, thus is the intensity of the yearning to be fully at peace. Our mool is our home, Waheguru, and we are created out of this universal energy. In this life, in our mother’s uterus, we were fully connected. We were immersed in God and learned how to play this game of life. We were tested, and taught how to return again to our mool. We were taught that it would be there, just hard for us to recognize because of the game of maya, because of our doubt. We learned how to return home again in this lifetime. Yet when we aren’t successful, we return again to play this game, and again and again: “The Gurmukhs worship the Lord, and find His celestial home. Without meeting the Guru, they die, and come and go in reincarnation (Rahao).” We all wander homesick daily, only some of us don’t know it yet.
My homesickness is not for a physical place. Things of comfort are not my home, blankets and beautiful palaces could not replace this emptiness and desperation for home. There is a heartfelt shabad on this topic that says, “If I had a palace made of pearls, inlaid with jewels, scented with musk, saffron and sandalwood, a sheer delight to behold- seeing this I might go astray and forget You, and Your Name would not enter into my mind” and in the Rahao line of this shabad we are reminded that without our Guru there is no place at all. I used to think homesickness was for people, that maybe my home would be a person. I thought maybe calling someone mine will give me a home- wherever he was, I would be home. This is a continuation of thinking that maybe sangat is home… but how can people be our homes if they leave? If we place ourselves in our home and they have disappeared, it will never exist again. That familiar feeling would be snatched forever, how is it so that it could be so temporary? The home we find within other people and the reason why Sangat is a form of our Guru, is because Waheguru is encompassing in all. In order to find that home that is the “one light in two bodies” it is necessary for us to not just replace people into a role of home as a physical or mental home, a temporary comfort, but to remove all doubt and barriers of maya to really realize God. Furthermore, some people in the sangat are already home and help us find our home, and others walk with us while we find our home. I guess home can be seen and found in other people because this is the sargun form of God, but we must be careful not to attach ourselves to the painting instead of the Creator.
Although I am having a difficult time finding an appropriate word in English I think rest will suffice. Going home offers some sort of deep state of rest. This is the state in which Guru Arjan Dev Ji and many other Sikhs have been able to endure physical torture but still found God’s will to be sweet. For most of us living go-go-go lives, we don’t really know rest. We vacation and rest our bodies and stop working, but still we do not actually rest. We feel unrefreshed and unrejuvenated. We do it out of necessity sometimes, a short-term sacrifice for long term dream of being able to give back to society and do some amazing sewa for the Sikh kaum. I’ve done it all- skipped meals, gotten short sleeps, and cut out talking to anyone because I had to get through. I know what it feels like to do what you gotta do. I was overwhelmed and didn’t know another way. While we run constantly, it's like running on a hamster wheel. We aren’t moving our actual life journey that was written for us. In the background, our minds are starving for home. Being immersed in Naam is an actual deep sleep-like state, where your body relaxes- jaw loosens, shoulders drop, lungs expand, and the nervous system tunes into rest and digest (parasympathetics). While people do simran and enter into Sunn, they learn to disconnect from the body and enter a peaceful state of mind that is impossible to describe. Through small periods of this state, the mind learns how to go home permanently.
Marble
“O Sheikh, you wander in the four directions, blown by the four winds; bring your mind back to the home of the One Lord.”
Monday, April 5, 2021
Unsettled
I’ve learned the depths of empathy and compassion through my life and got used to seeing things from different points of view. There is always a story. We can be compassionate towards those who spend their lives in maya, who are lost, because we remind ourselves that they have wasted away their purpose in this life and will have to live through this again, they must reap what they sow. We cannot define people by their story in this life, because it is the story of many lifetimes, of the mind travelling as it learns. Why do we strip people of their humanity and define them by one moment? Guru Nanak Dev Ji gave people like Sajjan Thug and Kauda Rakshish new lives. The times that our judgement comes into play is when our ego rises up from inside us. We judge because we feel vulnerable, attacked, insulted.
It is difficult to share our stories, to have hard and real conversations. Yet when we do, I have noticed much resistance. I think people feel uncomfortable hearing our stories because it unsettles their own. Imagine a suitcase that is overfilled, and you have barely just fit everything in, and you have to sit on it to get it to close. Some people’s lives have this box inside that they have barely kept everything in, and your story threatens that box opening, it threatens the way that they live day in and day out. My very existence through my story may threaten someone’s current way of living. Being with people when they are real is hard because it can open up feelings of discomfort within yourself. Someone else’s realizations about life can challenge your worldview, how you operate and think and move through the world. It can make people gain faith or lose it entirely. In some way, speaking our truth can liberate us and isolate us all at once if no one else wants to hear it. Many people have had to walk that path, but I think it’s better to be real and have a relationship with God than be fake and have everyone. We like to protect other people from the pain of our stories, but they need to be said. The stories of our families need to be told, the stories of Sikhs migrating in 47 and the stories of our shaheeds, the stories of Sikhs before us, all these truths need to be told. Some people don’t stick around to hear it. Others can only listen to a story by calling you “another.” By seeing people as “others” we separate them out. It is a way of convincing ourselves to retain our worldview in the face of something that challenges it. It is a way of saying this happened to you, because of factors that are unique to you, and this could never possibly happen to me. It preserves the self as we know it and prevents us from truly absorbing other people’s stories and the reality of the world, that any one of us can be living on the streets, any one of us can be addicted, any one of us can be murdered or sexually assaulted, any one of us can be anywhere, in any position because there is actually no “other” in the first place. This is what Sikhi teaches us- the other doesn't exist.
I hear stories day in and day out. They make me squirm in my seat sometimes or my heart pound and my stomach churn. No matter what, it is absolutely essential to be a witness to someone’s story, and a privilege to do so. Broken hearts that are unseen die, they might die physically or they might die away of the life they could have had, living in a shell of what they were. Listening, I am challenged in the fairness and justice of the world. I am challenged in my perceptions of right and wrong, in my ideas of even how things exist and how things are. It is hard to understand the poison that makes violence possible, that turns love into indifference, and pulls away smiles into misery, one drop of which violates the purest of waters, yet it exists in all of us. It is ego, it is maya. As the discomfort has changed into growth after hearing stories, and I find myself transformed, I have leaned into seeking out stories. I seek them out in biographies, audiobooks, documentaries, and articles. I want depth to life, not a rigid set of rules that doesn’t change. The only way we can hold space for these stories is really if we allow that part of ourselves to get unsettled, to do so. To address what is going on inside, because without that we will not be able to be present for anything, not for our loved ones, not for anyone.
Think about the most transformative stories. Whose story did you hear and how did it change you?


