Monday, August 31, 2020

53 Member Family Under One Roof!

This is an excellent video on a 53 member family that lives together in one household. It teaches us about our capacity and ability to be able to get along, to be able to move past little things and let them go, to resolve conflicts, and to live a fulfilled and joyful life in a big family. I think it is really interesting just seeing how interviewing person to person they are genuinely happy in the household and admit there are little kerfuffles like anyone has, but that overall they are able to easily sort them out and move past them. They make over 500 rotis not including those for their own household! They have figured out ways of dividing up the household tasks and allowing space and time for the children to do their studies, and for people to go out and do the types of things they enjoy. It is amazing how we are struggling here in the western world just for couples to get along, or for siblings to get along, when there is just so much capacity for us to be flexible and to live in larger settings. We are evolutionarily adapted for that. There is a great joy in children being able to grow up with so many loving figures around and so many role models. For this family it is working out so well and can be example for all of us.

Here's the link if it doesn't work on the embedded version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKypc66ZX6o&t=103s

Friday, August 28, 2020

Roti Mania: A Guide to Gluten Free Rotis

I spent the summer making hundreds of recipes, including 123 DIFFERENT gluten free roti recipes! I wanted to summarize what I learned. 

Where to buy flour 
First things first, you have to know where to find these flours I will mention. Yupik is a Canadian company that sells flours via their website and via amazon. You can buy Bob’s Red Mill Coconut, Rice, Almond, Cassava, Tapioca, Buckwheat, Arrowroot, Flaxseed, Chickpea, Millet (not bajra, Proso millet), potato flour, potato starch ,quinoa, brown rice, white rice, teff, sorghum, sweet rice, amaranth, corn, oat, and quinoa flour. You can purchase Millstream Gluten Free Atta from Saveon foods, and can also purchase their chickpea flour and corn flour. Anthony’s flours include almond flour, coconut, cassava, arrowroot, chickpea and more and can be purchased locally or via amazon. Almond flour and flaxseed can be found at save on or Costco. Those with celiac obviously have to be very careful about not buying contaminated flours, those who aren’t celiac but are looking for benefits of other flours should be fine to buy them if they say may contain wheat. In that case, where you aren't worried about contamination, bulk barn will often have these flours and so will ave maria. 

Why Not a Wheat Roti?
There are lots of people who don’t tolerate wheat rotis very well, those with celiac, and some people who are looking for variety in the nutrients in their rotis or looking for rotis with a low glycemic index. There’s lots of reasons to look beyond a regular wheat roti.

Working With Gluten Free Atta 
Gluten free atta has its own characteristics and is definitely harder to work with than a wheat roti. I find some gluten free attas do have benefit when you sieve them otherwise there are particles that don’t taste good when you eat the roti. When you make a roti you first have to add water to the flour (atta). I found for all gluten free flours its beneficial to work with boiling water. It helps to bring the flour together better. I boil my water in a quick kettle. Then you pour it into the flour, just enough to get it to mix together. If you add too much, add more flour. If you add too little you can always mix in more. Many traditional Punjabi aunties know this as the method to making makki rotis. I initially like to mix it with a spoon because its too hot to touch. Once its cool enough to touch I do it with my hands. I find it helps if you butter up your hands so it doesn’t stick. You can also just use water on your hands. Knead it out. The gluten free dough doesn’t really need that much kneading. When I was reading into it, kneading for a traditional roti has a lot to do with the gluten, as does the “letting it sit” which is also not really required for gluten free dough. If you do wait too long, or let it sit, the dough dries out. You have to cover it up with a wet kitchen towel. The next step is rolling it into little balls. If you find it is crumbling, add more water and keep kneading. If it is too wet, add more atta again. Keep working with it until it is smooth. If it cracks now your roti will definitely crack too. 

Now comes the trickiest part which is rolling out a gluten free roti without having it stick everywhere, and without having it fall apart. Some people use a tortilla press. Some people use sheets of saran wrap, or parchment paper- put a sheet down, the atta, then another sheet, then roll it out over top. Some people cut a ziplock and roll it between. I’ve seen all kinds of things on youtube. My own magic trick is using a SILICONE BAKING MAT. I read about these for rolling out pizza dough and stuff like that and I love mine. Basically you take your roti, and if it is buttered up on the outside you can just roll it out. If your roti is sticky, like most roti flour mixes are, you have to put some flour down on the baking mat (parethan), and you put some on your ball of atta just like for a wheat roti. Then you roll it out! It works great because when its time to take it off, you can either just pick it up, or if your roti is too thin, pick it up with a spatula, or you can just flip the mat a little and pick it up. Its really easy. I haven’t seen this used anywhere for making rotis, but you can wash it and use it over and over and its way better than wasting plastic wraps. Silicone is known to be safe for baking. Some people in India don’t roll out their dough. They use different techniques: patting, hands on a pan and flipping. Here’s some examples: 

The edges of the roti: Depending on the flour you use, some edges are smooth like a wheat roti, some edges are jagged if the flour is thicker. I saw someone online cutting it into a circle using a lid, you can certainly do that if you are really wanting a round roti and you have flour that doesn’t allow that. (For those with celiac you have to be careful to remember to use your own rolling pin, surface, sieve, silicone mat etc.)

Once you put the roti on the tava (cast iron) you should put the side with the most parethan up, and put some water on it with your fingers, once the water evaporates and it starts to bubble, flip the roti. It helps to press it down. I found you can get most rotis that are gluten free to fluff up using this method, but you have to be patient in learning, and if your flours are too “heavy” like too much besan, sorghum, etc. you can get them just being totally flat and not rising. 

Agents to Join Flours
In general baking, cornstarch, tapioca flour/starch, cassava flour, arrowroot flour, potato starch (not flour), sweet rice flour (mochiko in Japan), polenta, sweet potato flour, xanthan gum, guar gum, flaxseed, ground chia seed, psyllium husk, and mashed potatoes, apple sauce, and plain yogurt can be used to bind gluten-free flours. I found that from my experience watching videos and working with the flours you don’t necessarily need that in a gluten-free roti. After all people eat makki rotis without adding that, but it can be beneficial with some flour mixes. I left out xanthan because not all people can digest it well. 

Flours
There are so many gluten free flours I couldn’t possibly have tried all exponential recipes of rotis. I stuck with flours that were easy to find. Gluten-free bajra (pearl millet) is almost impossible to find in Canada. There are some flours I just chose not to use for preference. I think we also need to think about what our bodies will be used and able to digest easily. 

The following are gluten-free flours: Teff, Banana, Soy, Black Bean, White Bean, Fava Bean, Green Pea, Mesquite, Chestnut, Hazelenut, Pistachio, Peanut, Hemp, Tigernut, Finger Millet (Ragi in Hindi), Masa Harina (different than makki), Almond Meal, Almond Flour, Bajra (Pearl Millet), Proso Millet (most of the Canadian Millets), Coconut, Quinoa, Rice flour (Akki Roti in India), Corn (Makki), Sorghum (Jowar), Oat, Amaranth (Rajira), Buckwheat (Kuttu Ki Roti in Gajrat), and Chickpea flour (Besan).  Each of these flours has their own great nutrient profiles. Many of them are whoel grains, some of the mare more starchy, some have more fiber, some more protein. They have their own features in terms of adding different qualities and textures. It took a long time for me to figure out exactly what each added to a mix. 

Roti Trials
As I mentioned, I ran 123 different roti “experiments.” My little sister called it my roti factory. I want to summarize some of what I learned. Tapioca forms like a silly putty texture and doesn’t form into a roti when in a mix. Potato flour makes rotis very mushy. Almond flour and Coconut don’t hold structurally. Buckwheat rotis are traditionally eaten in Gajrat and there are lots of recipes online. Personally I found it had a very strong taste that was not my preference and the same goes for Amaranth. Rice flour makes rotis dry and stretchy, although again in other areas of India they are very popular for rotis. I didn’t like the texture for my rotis. Potato starch and flax didn’t work well as binding agents. 

I created some rules around rotis after observing my 109 “failed” recipes. Don’t worry, I made small versions of only 1 roti each! Almost all of them were edible, but I took them off the list for various reasons: texture (mushy, stiff, soft, stretchy, crumbly), thick/heavy, and taste. In fact, one of the rotis is mentionable for being the absolute worst roti I ever tasted and making me vomit. It was an equal combination of besan, sorghum, corn and cassava. I noticed when working with Besan (Chickpea flour) that it generally only really works on its own and in combination with cassava. It doesn’t work well with oats, or corn, unless it is a small portion (1/7th or less) of a larger mix, and shouldn’t be mixed with sorghum (jowar) or it has a bad aftertaste to the roti. Hence my bad experience with the besan/sorghum combination above. Quinoa flour needs to be toasted before you work with it. You bake it for 3 hrs at 215 F and have to keep mixing it about every 20 min, sometimes it gets made faster and you have to be careful not to burn it. It takes its strong taste away and leaves a more palatable flour. Some celiacs don’t tolerate oats because the protein in it is a similar structure to gluten. But for people who don’t have to worry about that, oats work with cassava, and sometimes corn. They don’t work with sorghum or besan. Corn flour doesn’t hold together very well and works well with oats, but not besan or sorghum. Cassava is not a whole grain but is stretchy and useful to join the rotis together, similar to sweet rice flour (Mochiko). 

Successful Rotis
Here is my list of rotis that were my favorite and I consider to be the most successful. I have to say there were others in my “semifinal” list, but they weren’t as good as this list so I shortened it to 12 rotis. I was a little disappointed that none of my home mixes were as good as the mix of dhayee with millstream atta, but millstream makes it with bajra and bajra is very difficult to find these days as it is imported from India and covid has reduced supplies. That was definitely my favorite. Here is the list! 
Dhayee mix: Started with a 1:1 ratio of plain yogurt to millstream flour, then I added more flour until it wasn’t too sticky. 
Oats, corn, cassava and quinoa: I added 1:1:1 portions of oats, corn, and cassava, then added a much smaller portion of quinoa. Ex. To make 1 roti you add a tbsp of the first three and 1 tsp of quinoa.
Besan/cassava: equal portions
Millstream multigrain atta: just making a roti out of this atta was pretty good
oats, corn, sweet rice flour: equal portions
Pure Makki roti
Besan/millstream: half and half, sometimes you can put even more of the millstream than the besan. In a wheat roti its usually 50/50 but for gluten free a little less than half of besan works to prevent it from being dry. 
Quinoa Roti: Add a little bit of olive oil or butter
Oat Roti:  add a little bit of oil or butter. 
Cassava/jowar roti: 2/3 portion cassava to 1/3 of the sorghum (jowar) 
Sorghum (jorwar): just pure sorghum. It tends to be a strong and heavy taste, not preferred by all.
Jowar/flax: equal portions. Same as above, some people might not like the taste or texture but good nutrient profile. I got this one online, so it definitely has been tried and tested by others as well. 

Wraps: I found the combination of corn, cassava, and oats in equal portions to be great for making wraps. It was a little too stretchy to be a good roti. 
Besan Cheela: Vegan omlettes (called Besan Ka Cheela in India), is a delicious recipe my aunts like to make and super easy. Basically you take a bunch of vegetables and some chickpea flour and mix it into a batter which you make like a pancake. For the sake of not leaving you with a recipe that has more exact numbers, here's one from online (sorry don’t remember where!) I tested and modified: Grind or finely chop 1/2 cup broccoli, 1/2 c spinach, 1/2 cup carrots, 1 inch minced ginger, 1/2 tsp turmeric (use less. I used this amount and it was too much!), 1/2 tsp whole cumin, salt to taste (I did 1/4 tsp), 1/2 tsp red chili (i dont like too many spices so i did less), 1/2 tsp roasted cumin powder (i skipped this), and the recipe didn't call for it but I added some scallions (1 tablespoon chopped). Then add in 1 cup of chickpea flour (besan), and mix. Slowly add water until it turns into a batter. I didnt measure but they said it ends up being about a cup of water. Then oil a pan, cook with 1/2 cup of batter, and add 1/2 tsp of oil around the outside before flipping (I did lactose free ghee since i'm not vegan). You can change around the veggies and test out which spices you like.

Variations of Rotis 
Once you have basic rotis down, you can start making combinations of parothas- you can add potatos, sweet potatoes, mooli, cauliflower, carrots, ajwain, papaya, dhal, methi/palak parothas! For gluten free rotis instead of stuffing them inside of the flour, or even instead of putting two rotis on top, you might want to consider just mixing it in. I found this worked well for sweet potato. You can also try a sweet roti with gur (jaggery) and sesame seeds. You can try a tandoori roti in the oven as well. 

I hope you enjoy your gluten free rotis and learn from my trial and error for recipes. A big thanks to all those ladies on youtube who also taught me a lot from observing them making their own rotis. 

Tuesday, August 18, 2020

Celebrating the First Parkash Diwas Guru Granth Sahib Ji

Tomorrow we are celebrating the Anniversary of the first Parkash Diwas of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. This is when Guru Arjan Dev Ji first installed the Aadh Granth (Adi Granth) at Harmandir Sahib. The following is the history.

From the times of the first to fourth Guru Sahibs, there were Pothi Sahibs (bigger than a Gutka but smaller than a Granth) that were passed on. Guru Amar Das Ji gave his Pothi Sahib to his son Mohan. Guru Arjan Dev Ji sent Bhai Gurdas, then Baba Buddha Ji to retrieve it, but Mohan was in deep meditation. Guru Arjan Dev Ji then travelled to Goindval himself and serenaded Mohan, but he was actually singing to God, the real Mohan. These pothis are now called the Goindval Pothis. Mohri, also the son of Guru Amardas Ji, gave Guru Ji a palanquin to carry the pothis. Guru walked barefoot from Goindwal to Khadur Sahib out of respect to Gurbani. Upon arriving at Amritsar, Guru Ji then compiled all the hymns, including those of enlightened Bhagats into a new holy book, the Adi Granth (pronounced Aadh Granth). There was a group of poets called Bhatts who came to meet Guru Ji while he was writing the Adh Granth. They all wrote the praises of the Guru (the knowledge and light) and then were all liberated and left their bodies. The Adh Granth was installed at Harmandir Sahib (the Golden Temple). Baba Buddha Ji carried Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji on his head, while Guru Arjan Dev Ji did Chaur Sahib sewa. Baba Buddha Ji made the first Granthi of Harmandir Sahib. The Hukamnama was from Ang 783 “Santa Ke Karaj Aap Khaloya…” (Almighty Himself has stood up to resolve the affairs of the Saints; He has come to complete their tasks, see Ang 783). Guru Ji slept on the floor next to scriptures, to demonstrate respect. It is unknown what happened to this original Bir of the Guru Granth Sahib Ji. 
 
The Parkash Divas is a day to celebrate our Guru. It is a time for us to remember how deep and meaningful our relationship to our Guru Ji is. 

Pictures: shttps://www.facebook.com/DailySikhUpdate/photos/a.451278254932169/1683387925054523/?type=3&theater 
https://www.facebook.com/SikhGurdwaraDc/photos/a.140540292810664/873294089535277/?type=3&theater 
https://www.sikhnet.com/news/gurus-birthday 

Monday, August 17, 2020

Beauty and Body Image

We know that people of all gender identities deal with body image issues. I wanted to learn a little bit more about how this has to do with our modern age, but also how body image is perceived in the South Asian population. I was surprised at how much I learned. This issue is relevant to everyone, if you have kids you need to know how to talk to your kids about body image; if you don’t then you should be aware of this issue in our community as there is a general lack of awareness about body image issues and eating disorders in the Indo-Canadian community. As you will see below people in the South Asian community do influence the body image of others. Furthermore, this may be something that affects you or your family more than you think… only 4% of women in the world think they are beautiful according to a study conducted by Dove. Sadly more than half of girls and 1/3 of boys from the ages of 6-8 already said their ideal body is thinner than their current one and 25% of kids have already tried some kind of dieting by age 7 (per Hatch Discussion Guide). Eating disorders have serious consequences including anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, low self-esteem, malnutrition, alcohol and drug use, and death (Break Binge Eating Statistics). 

Just briefly so we are on the same page here are some definitions. Body image is a combination of how you perceive your body, what you think about it, how you feel about it, and your behaviours towards it. Eating disorders are complex psychological conditions- examples include anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. Body dysmorphia is a body image disorder where people become see a part of them as flawed and start to obsess about it, where muscle dysmorphia is specifically a fear of not having enough muscle. Having a negative body image has the following risk factors: internalization (buying into the idea that a certain appearance will give you value), self-objectification (becoming an external observer of yourself as an object to be evaluated), comparison, fat talk, people with perfectionistic tendencies, those who are high achievers, people with low self-esteem or have depression, those teased about appearance, those who have family and friends with body image concerns/diet for weight loss, those with a larger body size, those who are more cognitively black and white, as well as homosexual men (source: Break Binge Eating Website). Studies on body image in the South Asian community have mostly focused on women but we will talk about men below as well. Eating disorders present themselves differently than in the western population and are influenced by different factors. Nazia Bhatti writes about this in “The Impact of Beauty, Body Image, and Health Discourses on Eating Disorder Risk in South Asian-Canadian Women.” She describes how South Asian women’s body concerns are influenced by westernization of media, criticism from others, conflict, and the relationship with food. I’ll also share comments from Neha Goel from the states who wrote “Conceptualization Of Body Image And Eating Disorders Among South Asian American Women: A Qualitative Investigation” and finally Manisha Kalidas Kapadia’s dissertation “Body Image in Indian Women as Influenced by the Indian Media.” In Kapadia’s study she interviewed women from India who all reported dissatisfaction with their body shape and size, influenced by family and friends and comparisons to Hollywood and Bollywood actresses. Let’s explore these topics and the ones Bhatti mentioned as contributing to body image issues for South Asian women in the west. 

CRITICISM
Because appearance is an important factor in finding and “maintaining” a husband, there is ongoing criticism about topics such as skin tone and weight from “aunties” in the community (Bhatti). (I should take a moment here to say that I was horrified at this thought as a woman being thin as the only thing holding a marriage together and necessary for a woman to keep her husband). Bhatti comments that the idea of fair skin tone come from the background of colonization, when being white meant to be rich and powerful, while being dark skinned meant being working-class, laboring in the sun. Goel notes that fair skin is so important that women continue to use dangerous bleaching products knowing the harms because they also recognize and face colorism in the US/western world. These criticisms from others in the community affect some women so much they are at increased risk of body dissatisfaction and eating disorders (Bhatti). Goel notes that they often are given “pseudo” health tips to “help” with these issues, and they are restricted culturally from advocating for themselves or speaking back. It didn’t matter if the comments were about weight gain or loss- it had a negative effect on the women’s physical and mental health to face this constant judgement about their appearance and led to lower self-esteem (Bhatti). It seems there is a narrow definition of beauty- as Goel described, a woman cannot be seen as too thin or she isn’t “healthy” and she can’t be too fat either. This narrow definition of South Asian beauty sometimes contrasts western ideals of being curvy, tan, and Eurocentric (Goel). Goel specifically comments that in order to make any intervention this older generation of women must be addressed as the younger women will continue to face criticism otherwise. She described that these older women were using their comments to not only surveil food intake, but to enforce a specific standard despite medical illnesses that women had. Here in the western world, discriminatory comments made about a South Asian woman’s ethnic appearance increases the risk of eating disorders because their weight is one of the features they can change about themselves to fit into the westernized ideal (Bhatti). 

It is important to note that the focus on a woman’s figure is an important factor in a woman’s marriage prospects because a man’s family wants a woman with good genes and health (Bhatti). Keep in mind here marriage for a woman in this context represents a lot more than just the western idea of marriage, it also has implications for social status, finances, and whole her future. Thus in the past, women who could afford to eat were those of higher socio-economic status and thus had curvier figures, representing the ideal (Bhatti). The documentary “A Brief History of Fat, and Why We Hate It” talks about the reason why evolutionarily people with more fat are selected; caring for children takes energy and those mothers with more fat stores would be more successful in having kids. In addition, people who are too thin don’t menstruate, so more weight also signals fertility. Having more fat stores also allowed more manual labor to be done, but the problem began when machines took over and humans became inactive in the presence of abundant food. They also talked about how our body is adapted to work against dieting as our hunger instincts are about our survival. Bhatti reminds us that for many a woman’s appearance now is still the most important factor in an arranged marriage because of this background in it representing her health status. I think one of the things that we really need to remember is that thin doesn’t necessarily mean healthy- it might also come with clogged arteries, or malnutrition. I also realized that it kind of makes sense for men to be wired to be so focused on breasts and butts because actually parts of fertility to have a pelvis that’s big enough to bear children and breasts that would feed the children.

CONFLICT
In terms of conflict, Bhatti says that women who were experiencing conflicts in values between western ideals and South Asian values- even if they were on unrelated topics like dating, or culture clashes with their parents, experienced an increased risk of eating disorders. In most documentaries on eating disorders you will see the people describing how eating was their way of controlling life, or the one thing they could control. So it makes sense if we are restricting the freedoms of young women, and making them feel powerless in their lives that they are controlling the one thing they can, which is eating (Bhatti). I think that there is another way in which this western values conflict presents it self. I’ve noticed a lot of my cousins talking about not looking too bright, and wearing muted black/white or grey colors of popular brands like Nike. I think that my bright clothing and floral prints makes people uncomfortable sometimes because they tend to wear dark clothing specifically to blend in and not be noticed whereas I find a yellow shirt just brightens up your day and reminds you that life is vibrant and there is a richness to be lived. I don’t think there is anything wrong with either but I do think restricting yourself only to black to hide away, to fit in, or being afraid to wear something of color is different than just choosing subtle colors because you enjoy that.  

FOOD IN SOUTH ASIAN CULTURE
Bhatti noted it is culturally inappropriate in many cases to decline food when you are visiting someone and it is offered, or for many people in their own homes; that food is often made in excess; meal preparation is typically done by women; and that the family all eats the same meals. Some women resorted to starving themselves in anticipation of having to go to events where they wouldn’t be able to decline food, or to just not eat altogether. The women studied were specifically changing their eating for weight loss, not for health reasons, and didn’t even consider the effects it would hae on their health (Bhatti). In Kapadia’s study all the women wanted to change their bodies, but felt that lack of resources restricted them such as not having nannies to care for the children, having to work, not having money for surgery or personal trainers, etc. Goel notes that mental illnesses including eating disorders are stigmatized and thus underreported in the South Asian community. 

MEDIA
In the media, South Asian women consume both Hollywood and Bollywood media and while in the past media in both used to focus on having a full curvy figure, that has changed over time to a thin ideal(Bhatti). Kapadia similarly noted that women in India consume both types of media, but they draw more of their comparisons based on Hollywood rather than Bollywood which I found to be surprising. The women in her study noted that in the past both Hollywood and Bollywood focused on talent, and women had fuller figures while nowadays Bollywood especially is focused on revealing clothing, western outfits, plastic surgery, and thin actresses. They noted men to be more muscular in the media as well compared to the past, and that movies generally now showed more scenes of a sexual nature which may not be appropriate for children. Women noted that the general population in India had also begun to represent that movie ideal with more revealing westernized clothing. 

Most of us have seen Dove’s evolution video, I will link it here in case you haven’t: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U It shows a model getting digitally altered and all the work that goes into how she looks in the final product. There are many ways in which individuals will make efforts to alter their appearance, and we all know that the beauty industry is worth billions for a reason. I learned that a lot of these products are also not regulated the same as the rest of the stuff that we consume and use, hence the emergence of clean beauty products (Toxic Beauty CBC). Some of them can be quite dangerous to us. We will now list off the methods used to alter appearance, many of which I didn’t know about (source for most of this paragraph is the Body Acceptance Class Manual). These methods include makeup, fake tans, surgeries to change eye color, contact lenses to change eyecolor, laser surgery for eyes, fake lashes, fake nails, wigs, dying hair and haircare products to change hair texture such as straightening hair, perfume, skin bleaching agents, plastic surgery, skincare products, hair removal (waxing, laser, shaving), skin rejuvenation procedures, skin tattooing (ex. eyebrows, eyeliner), manicures/pedicures, dietary supplements like steroids, extreme diets, excessive exercise, etc. (source: “what is pretty?” and Australian Center for Clinical Interventions). For the fashion industry, they select young models who are often pre-pubescent or early teens to represent products that are for older women. Then on top of this the fashion industry uses bras and bottoms that are padded, even for making a regular sized model look plus sized- so her face and neck is thin but the rest is padded. If you think about it a woman with a low BMI has no fat, therefore naturally she cannot physically have big breasts or a big butt because she doesn’t have the fat to support it. This has lead to padding or photoshopping those pieces in afterwards and in some cases breast implants. They pin clothes in the back, duct tape breasts, two sets of bras, or girdles to increase cleavage, and skin is taped back to remove wrinkles. Once this process is done, lighting is set up, posesare set up a particular way, and the photo is taken. Then comes the computer manipulation which can range from photoshopping to change body proportions, take off wrinkles, make someone skinny, to completely using just the face of a person and using a computer generated body, or parts of different bodies. This has prompted some models to do talks about how even they don’t look like their version in a magazine. Furthermore if you thought this was just computer, magazines, etc. this is also in live films. Men are also photoshopped and can have body doubles in movies. Moreover, did you know that if those store mannequins were real women, they wouldn’t be able to menstruate? Those are not fit and healthy ideals. Sometimes they have no heads and the back of their body is missing, but it does demonstrate something- if you walk by and see a mannequin wearing something it’ll attract you to walk into the store. As Media Smarts mentions it is important to remind ourselves that consumer culture is built on people feeling like they need to buy things to be happy and successful. Studies found that even when people are aware of all of this manipulation, and counterargue it, they still internalize the thin ideal (source: positive psychology)…it’s not good enough just to know that the picture you are looking at is altered. 

The scary part about social media is it can do all the things that I mentioned above. A lot of people are probably like me and didn’t realize it is very common for the average everyday person to digitally alter their pictures on social media! Most studies on social media are correlational at this time and some studies have been conflicting. What we do know is that most men and women compare their bodies to images they see in the media, and social media can influence them to internalize the thinness ideal. Viewing fitspiration (fitness inspiration on Instagram) posts can result in unhealthy eating and exercise in young adults, and women who share their fitspiration photos have higher drive to be thinner and undergo compulsive exercise (source: Mind that Ego). In another study just 10 minutes on Facebook resulted in more appearance related concerns (Source: in-mind). BBC states that studies also show that women feel worse after posting a selfie even if they retouched it. For some young people whose social media lives are more important than real life, this validation from likes is defining their self-worth. 

MEN
Eating disorders also affect men, especially athletes as men are pressured to not be too thin as they must be muscular, but also not to be obese. Many have turned to steroid use to build muscle (Center for Clinical interventions). Interestingly, a study from 2008 showed that men became more self-conscious seeing sexualized women in male magazines, because they expected these women would want the same ideal from their bodies as well (Media smarts). There is a huge pressure to be muscular and fit. I suspect there is a diversity of body image issues that aren’t mentioned because men don’t like to talk about these things, but some that are notable are fear of being short and insecurity about genitals. I think in terms of body image a lot of Sikh men in particular struggle with hair, beard, or even chest hair and the ideal of what they should be looking like and what they want to look like. Insecurities is a topic that should be expanded on, for example the portrayal of Sikh men with and without turbans and what kinds of personalities they have in movies and how they are portrayed. I noticed a common stereotype for the hero to be muscular guy, and for turbaned men to often be awkward, insecure stereotypes. How is that affecting men’s views of themselves? 

BODY POSTIVITY VS NEUTRALITY
The body positive movement focuses on accepting all marginalized bodies and it’s background comes from the “fat acceptance movement” started to fight fat shaming and fat phobia, whereas body confidence is your personal confidence in your body (source: Cliona Byrne). Positive Psychology writes that people who are overweight are found to often go through a pattern of feeling bad, then further using food or inactivity as comfort, and gaining more weight. Building up self-esteem and being happy about body image is so important that it helps to break this cycle, and allow people to then improve their physical health. Some people have misunderstood it as promoting an unhealthy ideal by thinking that if people accept themselves at an obese weight they are not promoting a healthy lifestyle but that’s not what the body positivity movement is about. There is controversy over weight loss in the body positivity community as sometimes those who set weight loss goals are no longer seen as body positive- it is thought that this is coming from a place of shame, or something bad, rather than as something positive that someone might be motivated to do for their health (discussed by youtuber ObesetoBeast). Yet it could totally be coming from a positive space. Thus some people have promoted the term body neutrality instead, focusing on the idea that we should just stop focusing on the body so much in the first place (source: The Cut). We will revisit this topic. We talked about the Dove evolution ad above. I think one of the important things to mention is that people are upset that Dove also sells fair and lovely which is a skin bleaching agent, and although companies are starting to add in more diversity of models on the runway, they are still selling us a product and that our bodies matter more than ourselves (The Social Media Beauty Cult DW documentary).

IDEAS
Ideas to overcome the effects of media on our self-image are to get away from your phone and go out and have real friendships, to change your feed, stop comparing ourselves and to have positive self-talk (King University, Hatch Discussion Guide). Try to figure out where ideas came from. Think about what your body is able to do and it’s functions- for example your legs are not for looking pretty or being an object, they are for walking (Positive Psychology, Engeln). I liked how Engeln said “your body is your tool for exploring the world.” Some of the ways of supporting children is body positive books, pointing out the talents of people who are of various body sizes and being active together (Huffington post). We know that media literacy, academic achievement, problem-solving skills, high self-esteem, body appreciation, and intuitive eating are protective against eating disorders (Break Binge Eating). 

It is notable that 8 out of 10 women opt out of events because they don’t feel beautiful, and that this starts young with girls not putting up their hands to avoid drawing attention to themselves, withdrawing in debates, sports, and other activities (Carrie Hammer; Meaghan Ramsey). In fact, studies show girls and women who are focused on monitoring their body from an outside perspective perform worse on math and reading tests, can’t lift as heavy weights, throw a softball as far, or run as far (Lindsay Kite). Renee Engeln states “Now, psychologist have long told us that we have finite cognitive resources.. you also cannot chronically monitor your body’s appearance and be engaged in the world.” The time spent on appearance and thinking about how they look is at the expense of actually living- of spending time in their bodies and using them for sports, family, hobbies and learning (Ramsey). We need to remind little girls they are more than their appearance. This comes back to the topic of it being important to move past our bodies. Sikhi teaches us that the body is simply a vessel. It helps us achieve the purpose of our life and we are so fortunate after so many reincarnations to have this human life. To be obsessed with the body is not a part of Sikhi. It is not wrong to want to look presentable, but to spend hours on your paag or makeup is not without its consequences. In Sikhi we are taught to move beyond this world and maya and into a different spiritual state. When we are uncomfortable within ourselves, or in our lives, it is often just a consequence of this inner stirring. As the DW documentary describes “society is racked with constant inner unrest.” For us we actually know that in Sikhi this inner unrest comes from something deeper than appearance. It is our journey that we came to this earth for an until that is satisfied we will not feel fulfilled. One makeup artist, DeVirgilis, found that there was a small percent of her clients not apologizing for their looks and those were the ones aware of their mortality. I think that it shouldn’t take that kind of event for us to finally appreciate what our body can do. If you got breast cancer and lost your breasts, you would be so regretful that you spent so much time worrying about how they look, and wished that you had just appreciated your body for what it was. As Sikhs are more aware of our mortality and aware that all of our time spent here is precious.
 

I’ll end on a personal note about my experiences. I’ve never struggled from an eating disorder or significant body image issues so its unfair of me to ever say that I can speak from that perspective or know what it feels like. What I will say is that don’t fall into the belief that people are spared from this appearance pressure if you change yourself or you had been born differently. Even models in TED talks talk deeply about their insecurities and how much they struggle with appearance. My body is what a lot of people would call the ideal body type, and I have long eyelashes, fair skin, long hair… yet I too have my own insecurities. That is the business of fashion, it is there to make you feel that. I have experienced some of the typical “criticism” category which I don’t think any of us in the Punjabi community are immune from. Within a week of each other, I had a South Asian doctor tell me they thought that I was anorexic because I was so skinny and an aunty tell me that I looked fat (?!). This vast discrepancy obviously comes from people’s own insecurities and their own perceptions and we cannot take that personally. The lady selling me my Hugo boss suit told me I was a perfect sample size, yet all the clothes of the same size in my closet range from labels of XXS to XL; I could be a zero or an eight. The size ranging has nothing to do with the actual size of the clothes. I remember being 13 years old, and I went shopping for a pair of jeans in Toronto. At thirteen I didn’t realize that your pelvis still has some growing to do. I went to the store and picked up my usual size and the lady told me no, I need the size up. I refused, bought the smaller size. What she was actually saying was that the sizes run small, what I interpreted was completely different. The jeans were tight, and they barely fit for a few weeks and I never wore them again. I kept them in my closet for a while not understanding that my pelvis cannot possibly ever get smaller. I learned a lesson that day that I’ll remember forever- don’t judge on the size label, just choose clothes that fit. We are not defined by our sizes. When we are in our teens there is this awkwardness of knowing your body and learning your body. Then our brain itself is growing into its adult version until 25 so it takes its time to learn about what this body feels like, what it can do, and how it functions. For example getting your period doesn't make you a woman overnight. There is a lot of growth in that process. The more simran you do the more outwardly focused you are as well. I noticed even having a focus of visiting Gurdwaras in India and not looking in the mirror made a huge difference to how I felt. I'm not perfect and some days I worry about being thin just like everyone else but I am more confident in myself now and I think I appreciate my body a lot more. I have the perspective to appreciate what my lungs for breathing, and my abdomen for digestion, and to know that it is so much more than what it looks like. Some days your body might not feel right, or maybe even isn't healthy, and I think it is all that much more important to recognize the positive side of what you can do and where your mind can take you that the body can't. 

If you need professional help with body image issues or an eating disorder please see your doctor. There is help available. 

References (I highly recommend watching Engeln’s and Kite’s videos, the first two): 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDowwh0EU4w Body Positivity or Body Obsession? Learning to See More and Be More by Lindsay Kite 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63XsokRPV_Y An Epidemic of Beauty Sickness by Renee Engeln
https://positivepsychology.com/positive-body-image/ Positive Psychology: Three Positive Body
Image Activities and Worksheets 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9vE4i017q4 The Business of Beauty is Very Ugly​ by Carrie Hammer
Nazia Bhatti “The Impact of Beauty, Body Image, and Health Discourses on Eating Disorder Risk in South Asian-Canadian Women. https://ir.lib.uwo.ca/etd/5206/
Neha Goel "Conceptualization Of Body Image And Eating Disorders Among South Asian American Women: A Qualitative Investigation.” https://scholarscompass.vcu.edu/etd/6037/
Manisha Kalidas Kapadia “Body Image in Indian Women as Influenced by the Indian Media.” https://twu-ir.tdl.org/handle/11274/3939
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au Center for Clinical Interventions, Government of Western Austrailia 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBdA0soFx4w Beauty and How We’re Obsessed with the Wrong Idea: Christina Gressinau
https://www.in-mind.org/article/selfie-esteem-the-relationship-between-body-dissatisfaction-and-social-media-in-adolescent The Inquisitive Mind: Selfie-Esteem: The Relationship Between Body Dissatisfaction and Social Media in Adolescent and Young Women by Makwana, Lee, Parkin and Farmer 
Body Acceptance Class Manual by Stice, Shaw and Rohde http://www.bodyprojectsupport.org/assets/pdf/materials/bp_4sess_script_handouts.pdf  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNOIAfwc0WU A Model’s Guide to Perfection Bella Glanville 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PBs7RqPTrI The social media beauty cult DW documentary 
https://clionabyrne.com/body-positivity-vs-body-confidence/ Body Positivity Vs. Body Confidence by Cliona Byrne 
https://online.king.edu/news/social-media-and-body-image/  King University: The Link Between Social Media and Body Image 
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190311-how-social-media-affects-body-image The Complicated Truth about Social Media and Body Image (BBC)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vinqph-g5QI A Brief History of Fat, and Why We Hate It 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMpV0gcq5go Body Positivity has gone TOO Far (I’m Mad) by ObesetoBeast
https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/foster-healthy-body-image-child_l_5c86b4a8e4b0d936162add28 Huffington Post: 10 everyday ways to Foster and Healthy Body Image in Your Child 
https://www.mindthatego.com/instagram-influence-body-image-part-1/ Instagram’s Influence on Negative Body Image
The Ultimate List of Body Image Statistics Dr. Linardon https://breakbingeeating.com/body-image-statistics/ 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWESkMNPams Body Image: Not Just about Your Body: Jessi Kneeland 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXlIAS-rI4E Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you by Megahan Ramsey 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8eAL4JNQQU8 Beauty: Documentary on Societal Beauty Standards 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gto6w0a13B0 In my Chair- A makeup artists perspective on beauty: Eva DeVirgilis 
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