These feelings are common ones to deal with at some point in our lives. We simply cannot live our life without making at least some mistakes. They’ll be made in our jobs, our relationships, our behaviours or even our ways of living. If we don’t learn to let go, we deal with a perpetual cycle of thinking about our mistakes. I personally have always found it easier to let go of what others have done, than letting go of what I have. The idea of making a mistakes that hurts someone else is so painful that it is hard sometimes to forgive oneself. We have touched on these topics here and there but I thought I would dedicate a post to it now.
In Nanak Naam’s Mool Mantar series, they talk about how the ego is ultimately responsible for us not being able to forgive ourselves. When we are blaming ourselves for what we did, we are saying “I am the karta purakh” yet we know that the doer is actually Waheguru and everything is Hukam. This comes in our mool mantar daily. It is the removal of self that is the solution. We must accept that our past was also a part of Hukam; Waheguru didn’t allow us to know at that point in time what we know now, and allowed it to happen. He explains that the reason we can’t get past this is because of our duality. This means we like to see things as good and bad, right and wrong and we label these based on our own perception. We see God as doing all good and we are the sinners doing all bad, when this is not true. God does everything, regardless of how we label it. He gives a great example, that I have thought about just about everyday since I originally watched this video in November. He describes that the lion kills a gazelle, is that good or bad? It is neutral because it doesn’t affect us. If the lion kills your child, is it good or bad? After all the lion is doing it otherwise his children will go hungry. Once it affects ME, then we start to perceive something as good or bad. In reality, it simply just is. Whatever happened was the Hukam at the time, the understanding that God gave us at the time. We are all a part of the universe, a very piece of Waheguru, and therefore there is only One. Bhai Sahib describes if we have the tools to change something, there is a reason we are in the situation, to act. If we don’t have the tools, God has made it so that we simply observe and cannot act. Waheguru does not need to forgive us because that forgiveness is already there and grace exists in each breath we receive. We were never taught to hang on to everything we ever did and never let it go.
In his videos, Bhai Satpal Singh Ji asks, why are there not shabads about forgiving people or ourselves in Gurbani? Because YOU have to exist to forgive people, and ultimately Gurbani is about removing YOU, it does not want you to exist. The cure to this problem is ultimately the removal of ego. Gurbani tells us also how to remove ego through simran. We can learn how to live in the present moment through simran. These are the types of topics that come to catch us in life if we do not address them by their roots. I encourage you to watch the Mool Mantar series, especially the two parts below. I found that on this topic in particular there will be lots of advice that you will get that will simply pump YOU up and say no but YOU are so great, and YOU this or YOU that. Friends will tell you God is doing all for your good, and all is good. That's simply building ego. Moving out of regret is all about removing the “you” and “them” from the equation. It is about removing blame, stopping the labelling of things in duality and the acceptance of Hukam. It is about seeing a bigger perspective of the way that the universe operates. With practice we learn to live more and more in the present.
References:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IU6S0g8ewPI Nanak Naam Mool Mantar Part 2 ** EXCELLENT VIDEO, a must watch!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag_KvfXUKEk Nanak Naam Mool Mantar Part 4** EXCELLENT VIDEO
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9qKgZ1rI0M&t=16s Nanak Naam video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYOaUh-zH9A Another Nanak Naam Video
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